“She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” I don’t know about you but man this verse carries weight for me. I have it posted on the mirror in my bathroom and read it multiple times a day. I often don’t speak wise words and I certainly don’t always follow the law of kindness. I have read and prayed this verse so many times that now when I lose my temper, or get short, or just flat out say something ridiculous this verse pops into my head as a gentle reminder that I CAN do better. Our words can be used to uplift or tear down. What we tell our children will become their inner voice. What message are we sending to them?
I entered motherhood 4.5 short years ago. I have 2 boys and another baby on the way. I am in no way, shape, or form an expert, and I pray I never come off that way. I was weary about writing this piece on the Proverbs 31 mother, because I know how personal motherhood is to all of us–how easily we can become offended with this topic, and how quick to defensiveness we can get when someone disagrees with our parenting. I prayed hard before writing this that none of my words would cause shame or guilt and that God would speak into each mama’s heart the very love and inspiration they need. And I hope that through this piece God would change and renew my heart too.
People these days are all about individual freedom and the right to choose! We can choose our gender, women can choose to give birth to the human being inside them or not. And they can choose how to have their baby if they choose to keep it. As for me, I am happy I was born a girl! And still happier to give up the right of changing my gender, thank you very much! And, after all the suffering and tears I went through after my sterility diagnosis in 2005, I kept my right of having as many kids as God allowed me to have.
In 2002 my husband and I made the decision to become foster parents. Over the next 9 years we, along with our three children, would welcome 21 children into our home. If there was one decision that greatly altered my life, it was this. Hindsight has turned this into the most frustrating game of “Would you rather…?” Would I rather have the strength and insight that I currently do or would I rather go back to my quiet nuclear family without the growth?
Sometimes life can be overwhelming. Like, really overwhelming. You’ve probably had a few times in your life when things just pile up and get crazy. Jobs, kids, moving, big life changes, etc. Things add up!
I really don’t know how I am functioning this last half-year and month, and on a day-to-day basis. Between working, planning a wedding, buying a house, selling a house, packing to move, and job-searching, our lives have been so busy we barely have time to sit and think, let alone spend quality or quantity time together. Our time together for the last couple of months, and still between now and the wedding, has pretty much been pre-decided for us by what all needs to get done and when it needs to get done by.